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Looking For LOVE? When looking to meet the person of your dreams, online dating may just not be enough. What you need is online matchmaking. Just what is online matchmaking? Matchmaking can be described as a process of introducing two people with a view towards marriage. Online matchmaking is simply matchmaking via technology. How does it work?

A matchmaking site requires one to input lots of details about yourself as well as the type of person you are looking for. This is in order to find your most suitable prospect(s), beyond mere physical attributes.

There Many Advantages to Online Matchmaking But the Top Ones Are:

1. Numbers: A large and wide network of people all seeking mates. This offers you the best chance of finding someone who is also looking for somebody just like you.
2. Convenience: search for your soul mate any time of day or night, in the privacy of your own home.

Now let's look at what you need to do in order to find a soul mate online: In order to succeed in finding your soul mate online, you need to compile six lists. These six lists will help you come up with a lively, attention-grabbing profile. Not only that, but this will also help make answering online matchmaking questionnaires much easier.

The Six Lists Are as Follows:

1. Things you must: these are things that your partner must have (personality-wise as opposed to material-wise) in order for you to be happy with him/her.
2. Things that would be nice to have but you can do without. You know, are the icings on the cake.
3. Things you cannot stand (your "no-no's"). These are characteristic that you absolutely will not tolerate.
4. Your endearing characteristics and attributes.
5. Your activities, interests and hobbies.
6. Things you must improve in yourself.

A look into your lifestyle and activities will help you come up with the above lists. If necessary, enlist the help of a close friend or relative. This might seem to be a lot of work, but it is well worth the effort. Remember it is your Soul Mate that you seek.

Another way to come up with a list of things that you want or don't want in a partner is to take a look at your past relationships. What are the things that you really liked? These are things you want. What did you not like or what made the relationship(s) flop? What characteristics caused problems in the past? These are the things you want to avoid.

Once your six lists, you are now ready to begin searching for your soul mate. The best route is through a reputable online matchmaking site. Not to be confused with a general dating site, a matchmaking site is tailored towards serious relationships.

There Are, Basically, Two Types of Matchmaking Sites:

1. Those that do the matching for you. You cannot view other members' profiles. They inform you when a compatible match has been found. With this type, you have little control over whom you get matched with. Some of the most successful matchmaking sites operate this way.

2. Those that do the matching for you as well as let you do the searching. With these, you have more control and flexibility, though this does not necessarily guarantee greater success.

It is not the place of this article to tell you which type of online matchmaking site to go for: that is a personal decision. But you cannot compromise on the quality of the site as you would be compromising on the quality of your love. In this day and age of quick fixes, some people expect to sign up with a matchmaking site today and find the person of their dreams tomorrow. This is possible, but unlikely. Patience is a virtue.

Expect to communicate and meet with several prospects before finding the right one. It might take days, it might take weeks, or it might take months. It's all worth it if you finally nail "The One", don't you think?

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To Your Online Matchmaking Success,
Dan A.


* Adult Personals * BDSM Fantasies * Free Dating

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In The Beginning of a Relationship, love seems to have a life of its own. Without much effort, you feel like you are on top of the world. You catch yourself smiling and laughing often, and feeling warm inside whenever you are with your loved one. Everything and everyone suddenly appears better through the rose-colored glasses of love. This euphoric feeling does not last forever, however. After the first year of marriage, the day to day activities of being married, working in a job, raising a family, buying and maintaining a home, etc., all take their toll, and romance takes a back seat.

Love has to be worked on, just like a gardener with his garden. Although he has planted the seeds, and expects the sun and rain to do most of the work, he still has to pull the weeds out of the garden, and fertilize it, and water it if there isn't enough rain. That is the same with a healthy, loving relationship. When Love becomes a priority in a marriage, it becomes part of one's daily life, and is taken care of, and will reward you by growing into a more mature, mellow, committed feeling, and when tested, rises up to meet the challenge. How does one keep love alive in a marriage?

Make Time

You need to designate quality time with your loved one. Don't take it for granted that he/she will always be there when you want them. Remember all those dates you took when you were courting? Now, it's not so easy. There's usually someone else making demands on him/her – whether it's the children with their homework, or the boss expecting you to work late hours, or even an Elderly Parent that requires assistance. Also, it now might require finding a baby-sitter, or juggling the time with another activity that might take precedence. Whatever happens, make time for each other. Also, make time to hug and/or kiss each other often. You'll be glad you did. The time you spend together will re-energize you and make you feel good for the rest of the day.
If you can't get away, you can still set a date at home, after the children are asleep. The important thing is to have fun together. Here are a few things you can plan to do at home together:

1. Physical Intimacy, might put some soft music in the background, maybe even dance together.
2. Pour a favorite drink, make an ice cream sundae, or grab some munchies, and have fun talking with your loved one.
3. Play a favorite board game or card game, anything that makes you enjoy yourselves.
4. Make popcorn and watch a favorite video.

This is not the time to solve lifes problems or issues. If there are any lurking issues in the background (and these may be keeping you from enjoying yourself), then sometimes you just might have to talk about it first, get it out in the open in a loving environment, then continue with your plans. Often, positive energy is tied up within us when a problem or issue has not been resolved.

Use these times to tell him/her how special they are to you (how intelligent, how thoughtful, how loving, how caring, etc.).

What is Romance?

Romance is the opportunity to show your loved one how special he/she is to you. It means taking the time for them, and making time, even if you don't have it. It doesn't mean thinking only about yourself, or having only your needs met. It means putting the other person first. If your spouse doesn't do things for you, then show him/her by gently pointing out what you like. If you like Flowers for your birthday, and you haven't gotten flowers, then let them know, particularly when he/she asks you what you would like. Don't think they can read your mind, let them know.

Also, Here Are Some Other Ideas to Spice Up Your Romance:

1. Do small acts of kindness, give him/her flowers, or a little gift, or write a poem, etc.
2. Say Thank you and "I Love You" often.
3. Be considerate of their feelings, etc.
4. Take long walks together anywhere.
5. Share jokes at mealtime. Laughter is a great way to share ones love.
6. Visit a museum, visit community festivals, tour a new site, or attend a lecture together.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Over time, we learn how to read our spouse. Their behavior, their actions, are important clues that alert us to how they are feeling. Often, we think we know what they are thinking, and we become sloppy, and don't talk about it, or they don't bring it up.

For Example, if he had a bad day at the office, and comes home snapping at the children and being tense, the last thing to do is to take it personally. Invite him to relax, as dinner is prepared, then after hes eaten, ask him how his day was. Sooner or later, the truth will come out, and you will learn what happened. You need to be a responsive listener, and not criticize your spouse, for he will surely clam up. The last thing he wants to hear is criticism.

Other Signs That Can Bring on a Spouses Anger/Tenseness:

Hunger: If your spouse hasn't eaten for awhile, not only their stomach growls, but they growl also. Keep your husband well fed (but not overfed).

Criticism: Try and avoid criticizing your partner. If there is something bothering you, then voice it in a way that you don't point fingers or blame him/her. Try not to keep distance between you. Communicate your feelings, how his/her action affected you, and how you were hurt by that action. Never, ever criticize your spouse in public. An apology is forthcoming, no matter how right you thought you were.

Tiredness: If your husband has been working all day, and you ask him to do a bunch of chores when he gets home, don't expect him to thank you. See if you can spread the chores out, so they include the weekend. Planning ahead helps here.

Take Care of Your Body

Although you may not look like you did when you were dating years ago, you can take measures to look just as good if not better.

1. Physical Wellbeing - make sure you stay in shape, eat the right foods, and dress nicely. All these actions not only get more compliments your way, they make you feel good about yourself, so that you can be more confident in yourself.

2. Spiritual Wellbeing - don't neglect this powerful aspect of life. Pray, go to church, believe. Studies have shown that families that pray together, stay together.

3. Mental Wellbeing - if you are a stay-at-home mother, find some good books to read, or read the newspaper or magazines. This will allow you to keep abreast with interesting topics, and will provide your spouse an interesting partner to discuss life issues with.

Don't Substitute

Don't substitute anyone or anything else for your loved one. Don't go to a coworker or a friend, and share Intimate Secrets, because you may be betraying your loved ones trust. Don't watch television or be on the computer all the time, when you could be spending quality time with your loved one. Don't spend all your time with the children, ignoring your spouse, because your husband or wife should be number one on the list. If people, organizations, or children clamor for your attention, put your spouse first, and then them. When you put your spouse first, you'll notice you won't need to be going to all these other people for emotional support. You'll also notice you'll be having more fun with the person you'll spend the rest of your life with. Don't underestimate the importance of Love in a Marriage. Cherish and nurture it, and you will have made the best investment in your life.




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To Your Marriage Success,
Dan A.

* Adult Personals * BDSM Fantasies * Free Dating

I'm working my way through the book "The Rules of Love" by Richard Templar. In it, Templar outlines what he feels are the rules everyone must follow in order to find and keep a happy Romantic Relationship. Some of his rules are contentions, but none more so (in my opinion) than #46 - Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids.

More important, you say? Tell that to the hundreds of thousands of single parents around the world today, and see what their reaction is. I'll hazard most of them would blanch at this suggestion, much less agree with it. And frankly, the first thing that came to mind for me when I read #46 was a horrible story where a single parent did rank their partner over their kids: a woman - whose boyfriend was in jail for stalking her and uttering threats - was told by one of her children that they didn't like said boyfriend. The Mom in turn defended the boyfriend's actions, saying he was a good, solid man. Not the best of thought processes for sure, but I'll hazard many single parents think of a similar type of situation when discussing who has priority in their lives.

As I read Templar's rule however, I softened a bit. He wasn't saying that Single Parents Dating shouldn't spend less time with their kids. Rather, he says that a single parent's children will take up the brunt of one's time. I quote:

"... it's Crucial that your partner is the primary focus of your life, even while your responsibility and time commitment to the children is greater. I'm not saying you should love them best because there's enough love for everyone and it's a very different kind of love. But never lose sight of the fact that having children at home is temporary (albeit long term temporary) whereas your partner is for life."

Templar is obviously speaking of folks who have made a lifelong Commitment to one another. But I'm not sure if what he's suggesting should apply to everyone... or maybe he has a point. Should our partners - once we've hit that magical dating period where the kids are involved and everyone's lives are deeply intertwined - be our #1 focus to keep a dating relationship burning bright? Or are the rules of love not the same as the Rules of Dating?

Templar is obviously speaking of folks who have made a lifelong Commitment to one another. But I'm not sure if what he's suggesting should apply to everyone... or maybe he has a point. Should our partners - once we've hit that magical dating period where the kids are involved and everyone's lives are deeply intertwined - be our #1 focus to keep a dating relationship burning bright? Or are the rules of love not the same as the Rules of Dating?

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Dan A.


* Adult Personals * BDSM Fantasies * Free Dating

As a Lesbian Women, it Can be Hard to Meet Others Through The Natural Course of Our Lives. Happily, There Are Now Many Opportunities to Contact Other Lesbian Women Online.









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Myspace, the incredibly popular network website, is going strong these days, despite tough competition from sites like Facebook and Twitter.

There are over 200 million people on Myspace. That's good news for you, as it is perfect for meeting women to date! Even better than most sites!

Why is this?

Because not only is MySpace free to use (a feature which ensures many, many women will use it), but MySpace actually augments, and to a certain extent, replaces the social lives of the women who use it!

What I mean by this is, women who use MySpace regularly depend on it to keep in touch with friends and fulfill their social needs. A busy girl with no time for dating or going out with friends can still feel connected to people by logging onto MySpace, chatting, sending emails, and seeing updates from their friends.

Not only that, women on MySpace tend to skew younger, which means the average age for girls who use MySpace is between 18 and 30. This actually makes meeting the women on MySpace a much easier task, because many of the women you'll be contacting aren't as jaded as women who've been playing the dating game for years.

On top of everything else, there's a huge advantage to using MySpace to meet women because people don't think of it as a "dating site," therefore you'll find lots of girls aren't expecting guys to contact them and try and pick them up.

This means the barrier to meeting women is far less than a site that's more of a "meat market," like Match.com. The reason for this is because girls on dating sites get deluged with emails from guys trying to "get with them." On MySpace, girls typically only get emails from people they know.

So here are a few easy steps you can follow to start meeting beautiful women on MySpace...

STEP 1: Create A Profile

Creating a profile on MySpace is free and very easy to do. In fact, the whole process will take you less than five minutes to complete.

STEP 2: Fill Out Your Profile

Once your profile is created, you'll want to put information about yourself on it. Think of it like creating a profile for a dating site. You'll want to have a flattering picture of yourself, an interesting headline that will grab people's attention, and some information about yourself and the type of woman you are looking to meet.

Be sure to include your interests in your profile. This is a great way to give people conversation topics to chat with you about after checking out your profile. You can also personalize your profile by changing the theme of your layout, adding music you like, adding videos you enjoy, and a whole host of other things to make your profile more personal.

STEP 3: Add People You Know As Friends

After your profile is created, invite some people you know to become friends with you. Having a small number of friends helps you look more "normal." It's inadvisable to begin contacting women right away without having any friends yet, since this makes it look like you're just trying to use the site to meet chicks (something that's actually a turn off for most girls on MySpace!)

MySpace makes this easy by accessing your address book and sending out friend requests via email. But be sure to only send an invite to people you feel comfortable letting see your profile! You may want to uncheck coworkers and the like.

STEP 4: Search For Women

MySpace has a great search feature that allows you to look for exactly the type of people you'd like to be "friends" with. Just click the Search button, but be sure to use the "Advanced Search" option. This will allow you to search based on gender, age, race, height, and most importantly, location!

I typically like to search for women, age 18-30, who are interested in dating, within 10 miles of my zip code. You'll get a LOT of results, especially if you live in a large city. Browse the pictures and see who you find attractive. Then check out the profile pages.

STEP 5: Contact Women

Once you find a profile you like, click the button to send them an email. This is done through MySpace's system. Your email should be short, sweet, and most of all - fun and interesting!

Sending an email that just says "Hey what's up?" won't get you anywhere. Instead, make your email one to two paragraphs, commenting on something about her and how well you think you'd get along.

So Sending an Email like:

"Hey, I was just checking through MySpace and stumbled across your profile. You seem totally awesome! Seriously, if you were living in the 80's, you'd probably be ranked up there with Def Leopard and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, that's how awesome your profile is, lol. Anyway, we should chat. Email me back and tell me what your favorite 80's movie is, and we'll compare notes."

As you can see, the response above is short, interesting, somewhat humorous, and bound to get a girl's attention. Contact as many women as you like using this method!

STEP 6: Follow Up

You'll find most women you contact will begin to respond to you. Continue to email back and forth, and even add them as a friend if you like them. Allow them to get to know you. Once enough rapport has been built up, you say you're bored with email and ask them for their number so you can text them.

Telling them you're going to text them as opposed to call them is important, because then they'll be sure to give you their cell phone number, and they're not committing to have to talk to you on the phone. Most girls will be willing to share their cell phone number if you approach them like this.

Once you have the number, start texting, ask when a good time to chat is, and then call them up at the appropriate time to set up a date, or a get-together. It's really that simple to meet women on MySpace. And you'll find the quality of women, in terms of looks, is much better than most paid dating sites!

Here are some other quick tips to help you use MySpace to get dates...

I. Download MySpace Messenger so you can chat with your friends and other women when you're online. IM sessions go a long way towards establishing rapport!

II. Look through your friend's friends to find girls you like. Meeting through someone you both mutually know can make the transition to romance much easier than approaching a girl you don't know.

III. Dating is a numbers game, so try and meet as many women through MySpace as possible to maximize your chances of finding a winner.

IV. Ask women you meet throughout your life if they're on MySpace, and get their email so you can add them as friends. This is a great way to keep in touch and follow up with women you're interested in.

V. Don't fret if you blow it with one girl. Think about the numbers on Myspace. There will be other chances to meet girls and get it right.

Meeting Women on MySpace can be fun, easy, and most of all - Effective! Instead of wasting your time on paid dating sites, give MySpace a shot and see what kind of results you can get.


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To Your Social Networking Success,
Dan A.


* Adult Personals * BSDM Fantasies * Free Dating

TRUE LOVE! Most of us search high and low for true love in that one ideal relationship. We struggle over it and with it, yearn for it, craft books, music, and poems about it—all without a clear understanding of what we seek or why we want it so desperately.

We’re not even sure what love is. How do we define it? The definition of love is as unique and as varied as every individual who experiences it. That’s a big part of the problem. Love feels different for each person. So how do we tell if the one we love actually returns the favor? After all, our loved one may offer us love that does not quite feel like what we know as love.

To clear up at least some of the confusion, let us establish a basic definition for true love. The truest, purest love is unconditional. Such love is also the simplest form of love because it has no hooks, no standards, no expectations, no conditions attached to it whatsoever. No complications, no hidden clauses or agendas, no restraints or exceptions.

Unconditional love is true love, and unconditional love is healing and uplifting—the ultimate source of all life. True/unconditional love sustains and nurtures life, joy, peace, and freedom. That is why we look so hard for true love. Deep in our souls, we long to be free, loved, and secure.

The very simplicity of unconditional/true love is also the source of its power. Lacking all limitations, unconditional love is limitless and endless. Unconditional love is simply another way of saying God, the infinite, the divine, the source, known by many names. Every major religion, in fact, asserts that God is love.

Unconditional love—God in other words—is so simple that most of us find it very suspicious if not downright impossible to understand or accept. We’re certain there has to be a catch somewhere, just as we’re convinced that some people, somehow and in some way, have done something so horrible or unforgiveable that they no longer merit God’s or anyone else’s love.

Do we damn child abusers? What about terrorists who cause death on a mass scale? Do we condemn corporate polluters? Illegal drug users? Homosexuals? Christian fundamentalists? Those of differing faiths or races?

Our personal litany of the unlovable/unforgiveable says far more about the limitations of our love than about anyone else. It also shows us that the love we give and receive is constricted and diminished by judgments, standards, or expectations. Once we impose even one tiny judgment, standard, or expectation on love, it devolves away from being true/unconditional.

Trapped in the painful web of conditional love, we devote our time and energy to looking for love in all the wrong places. We keep hoping to find true love somewhere “out there,” outside of ourselves, in someone else’s eyes. But that is not the place to find true love.

Future columns will explore where and how to find true love and how we can use that unconditional love to heal ourselves and our world.






To Your Successful Online Dating,
Dan A. {Priest}


* Adult Personals * BDSM Fantasies * Free Dating

The Mamma's Boy

This guy probably lives with his mother, if not close enough for her to pop in for tea (every night). She will have helped him pick out his decor and there will be photos of her all over his apartment. He goes for Sunday dinner and has several cartons of homemade meals in the refrigerator that mom made for him.

Why you should stay away: You will never live up to his mother and although he will love and cherish you forever he will take his mother's side every time.

How to get rid of him: Tell him you don't like his mother.


The Body Builder

This guy will have photos of himself on every available space, along with his own home gym (even though he has a life time membership at the swanky one in town). He has all the latest gadgets and home entertainment systems.

Why you should stay away: You will never see him as he is always down at the gym. He will spend more time in the bathroom then you. He collects trophies and likes one hanging off his arm.

How to get rid of him: Tell him to give up the gym for you.


The Womanizer

This guy will treat you like a princess and is the perfect lover. He dresses well and is out to impress and impress he will (every woman he comes in contact with). He will, of course, have trouble remembering your name, with all the women he has on the go.

Why You should stay away: His excuses for not showing up are getting more pathetic. You will have to compete with his phone as he has so many calls to return and text messages to answer.

How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I use to be a man."


The Workaholic

This man is going places, but will he be taking you with him? He is smartly dressed, has great taste in decor and eats at the finest restaurants. However, his work will always come first.

Why you should stay away: You have to make an appointment to see him. He will take you to elegant dinner parties then leave you with strangers while he talks shop.

How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I’m taking a year off to travel. Do you want to come?"


Your College Lecturer

He is probably older than you, more worldly and gets you a good grade.

Why you should stay away: If anyone found out about you, they would say you slept your way to better grades. Plus, he would lose his job and possibly his teaching position.

How to get rid of him: Tell him somebody is blackmailing you and if you don’t stop seeing him, they are going to report you.


Of course, there are exceptions. For example, if "The Body Builder" knows how to give you the same type of attention he gives his body then this could potentially be a good thing (as long as you can handle other women trying to pick up on him). And if you are a workaholic that has no plans of changing then being in a relationship with another "Workaholic" will allow the two of you to focus more on your careers while hopefully having some focus left for each other. If "Mamma's Boy" mom loves you and you can get the same focus from the man as his mom gives then just maybe... it's a stretch. Remember, it's doubtful any of these men will change so it's best not to try and change them.

A good approach to take in wanting out of one of these relationships is to be honest. This may gain more respect. Tell "Mamma's Boy" that he's too focused on his mom. Tell the womanizer that you only have room in your life for a man that only has room for you. It's doubtful that they'll change, but at least they'll know the real reason you don't want to pursue a relationship.


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To Your Successful Online Dating,
Dan A. {Priest}


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AT MOST online dating services require that you provide a short header message (opening line) that shows up under your username when people do searches. Some people don't know what to put here and end up with generic headers like, "I may be the one for you" or "hello".

It's vital that you use this space to create a profile header message that commands attention - something clever, funny, or
philosophical that will make a person want to click on your profile and read it.

There are several elements that go into creating a profile that people will want to click to read. One is your photo, another is your username, and then there's your header. Here are four specific tips for creating a good profile header:


1) Avoid Boring and Overused Headers
When a person can't think of what to say for their header message, they usually resort to common and overused headers like "I may be the one" or "looking to meet new people."

You don't want to appear common. There are tens of thousands of people competing with you in a quest to find that "perfect" partner. Therefore make sure that the header you use will attract the attention of others. Which one of these four profile headers would attract your attention?

"Hello"
"You May be the One I'm Looking for"
"Looking to Meet New People"
"Willing to Lie About How We Met!"

Three of those are overused. One takes a humorous approach to the concept of telling others how you met. It's unique and clever. Make sure your header is uncommon in a sea of commonalities.


2) Analyze Other Profile Headers
One of the best ways to create a winning profile header is to analyze headers others use that interest you. What is it about the header that makes you want to click on their profile and learn more? Here are a few of our favorites (some funny, some philosophical, and some simply clever):

"We make a perfect couple: I've got the brains and you've got the body!"
"Ok, I'm here. Now what's your other two wishes?"
"Bright spark looking to ignite shared paths"
"Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits."
"Strangers are friends waiting to be made."

Use the insight you gain from reading interesting profile headers to create your own.


3) Use Your Header as a Filter
One of the biggest complaints we hear from online daters is the number of people who contact them that are not what they are looking for. It may be a man 15 years older or someone who's body type doesn't match what you want. If you want to improve the interest shown to you from qualified respondents, then start by using your header to filter out unwanteds. For example:

"Looking for fit 24-30 year old male within 20 miles of Los Angeles"

By creating a filter, when a person who doesn't match your criteria reads your header they are likely to continue on. Yet when a "fit 24-30 year old local male" reads the header, it attracts him because he meets your criteria. Here are some real filter type subject headers we've seen people use:

"Must be at least 5'10" to get on this ride"
"Please be local, fit, over 40, and have a posted picture."
"Romantic men seem to be extinct. If you're extinct, contact me now."
"I love a man in uniform. Military men, apply within."

Improve your matches by using your subject header to filter your results!


4) Change Your Header Message
It's always a good idea to keep your profile fresh by rotating your pictures and changing your header message once in awhile. Every week create a new and clever, creative, or filtered subject header. Different subject headers attract different people, therefore you may reach "new" people by keeping your header fresh and updated.


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1. If You Really Didn't Have a Great Time, you can always end the date early by being truthful and call an end to proceedings by saying you have an urgent meeting, phone call, appointment etc. Whilst your date will not be a fool, they will understand what you are trying to say. Better still, simply be kind but truthful and point out that you don't think you will be an ideal match and that you have had a lovely evening but that is all there is to it.

2. Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is. Do not keep your options open with someone if you don't intend to call them. It is always better to end the date as a full-stop than to keep someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. So don't falsely keep someone's hopes up, ever.

3. If you are a guy you are paying the bill or getting the check, whatever you believe. This is not the moment to start quibbling over who had what from the menu and splitting things. The age of chivalry is not dead and you had the company of the lady this evening, therefore it is your task to leave an excellent and chivalrous image by getting out your credit card.

4. If the lady insists on paying half, this is often the sign of a no-strings-attached evening out and that she prefers to leave things in a very even way. If she wants to do this, it is up to you whether you wish to accept.

5. Do not be planning deep throat kissing and sex immediately after unless it really is on the cards for both of you. And even then, remember that you should be planning to retain your enigma at least for a few dates yet so resolve not to get into bed just yet. As a guy you should be planning to see her to her cab and then give her a small kiss on the cheek.

6. If You Like Your Date, Tell Them! You don't need to be explicit but you don't need to be coy either. If you enjoyed their company be forthright and confident and tell them that you would look forward to spending more time in their company very soon. If you can arrange a second date at this stage, then do so but only if you are serious. People do not like being made a fool of or being let down.

7. Do not try to avoid hurting someone's feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. If you had a good time but won't be seeing them again then better to leave things like that.

8. Keep things relaxed, fun and casual and if you feel they are less interested than you, then keep things open-ended and optional. That way your date will have time to reconsider.

9. If you are a guy see your date safely to a cab or her car and do not make her feel any pressure whatsoever. If you are a girl then ensure you feel comfortable with this happening. If you prefer to see yourself to a cab then do so.

10. Always remember that dating is a stage by stage process and nothing rarely happens instantly. Therefore the first date was exactly that with hopefully many more to follow.

11. And finally but perhaps controversially, don't offer friendship as substitute. This is a date and has it's basis in romance. Ultimately you will find friends in many different places, but you should view dating as the possibility of establishing romance as your foremost priority.

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Being ThirtySomething is rapidly becoming the crux age for many of us. It's the time when we have matured and have woken up one morning to understand finally who we are and what we are about. We generally have some idea of direction at this age and it is a time for choices and crossroads. Life may have begun at 40 in times gone by but these days your 30th Birthday is the age to sit up and take note. It is a time for reflection and self analysis, for checking how we are doing with our ambitions, and coming to terms with the fact that we are passing into a more mature age group - like it or not. I am not suggesting that becoming 30 means getting older or changing our lives but there are few of us who doubt it is not a time when we start to think - think a lot.

Now, dating is heavily related to this ThirtySomethings age group because now that careers have been sorted out and a salary is coming in regularly it has dawned on us that we better get a partner to share some of these things with. For women, it may be a time when children become dauntingly high on their list of priorities and the hunt is on for a suitable parent and father. It may not yet be a time for frantic panic but its not far away. We will not get steadily older and whilst some of us will get better with age, most of us start to look a little ragged round the edges so we need to secure the best Dating Options whilst we still can.

Being ThirtySomething means having more time and money to date properly, to make decisive choices about who, where and what you want to date and to learn from past dating mistakes. By now most of us will have at least on important Relationships in the bag though some of us will not yet have fallen in love. We have strong friendships and plenty of shared practical experience in the ways of the heart. But all is not well, dating as you get older becomes increasingly frustrating and tiring. Your base levels for a perfect match have increased and you are becoming increasingly selective. You are tired of meeting jerks and timewasters and people who simply don't match with you, people out for sex and anything they can get.

The other major thing to add is that dating for ThirtySomethings is higher risk. Time is moving on, you don't want to waste more years in another failed relationship so you become determined to get it right so you become more cautious and careful. You are aware of divorce law, so you are also aware that you can meet the wrong person and they could take half of what you worked so hard to achieve. You have become cautious in your old age. Dating fatigue has set in if you have been single for some time and you feel increasingly frustrated that you will not meet the right person.

There is a tiny dread in the back of your mind that it may not be possible to meet Mr. or Miss Right because just maybe they don't exist. Increasingly you may come across unparalleled shallowness, in both sexes. Men can lose their hair in their thirties and Women can age in different ways. Suddenly you won't do because you are thin on top or maybe your bosom isn't as pert as it was 10 years ago. You discover that that search for a soul mate may well be bull and that if you are George Clooney or Jennifer Aniston you will always do nicely.

The next issue to hit ThirtySomethings when dating is where to date. In your twenties you were are trance and rave clubs until 3am, or in bars with friends dancing until all hours and still able to be fresh in the office for 8.30am. Now you are 35, it isn't so easy to burn the candle at both ends. You need your sleep, you may not feel comfortable in places surrounded by people a decade younger so you may seek out solace in newer places. It is true that the cafe bar society has grown out of a wealthy ThirtySomething dating society and we can be thankful, but places to date are still not as easy to come by. It seems that clubs for ThirtySomethings are a little forced, and too directed to in your face dating. In other words, subtlety of the dating ritual has been lost, you are being checked out from the moment you enter the room.

Another issue that crops up with dating and ThirtySomethings is the age group we should date. Should we go for younger people, let us say aged 25 upwards, or maybe we like the more mature man or woman, let us say over 40. This really is an issue. It is an issue if we are still wanting children. In our thirties the people we may meet could already have a child or be separated or divorced and don't want another child. Or they may be actively seeking to have a child. If you are a woman you may be looking for a man who will make a good father.

If you are a man you may be looking for a woman of child bearing age and therefore may not consider a woman over 40. This is the dilemma. Age starts to become a factor. It is possible you will feel you don't have much in common with someone aged 21 but do find them Attractive, on the other hand you may find yourself drawn to the more mature aspects of an older man or woman. You can go in both directions at this age as you straddle the age gap.

The people we meet of our own age gap now have stories to tell, they may have baggage or they may have lost of baggage. We all have some kind of emotional dross we carry with us but in this age group it becomes very relevant. Do we want to meet people who already have a child by someone else, could we cope with children who aren't ours? There are a great many people on the rebound who have just spent years in relationships that didn't end. They could have had a 12 year marriage and be 31 and divorced and vowing never to get married again. Therefore, the people we meet as ThirtySomethings are far more complex than before.

The Purpose of this Article is not to provide answers but to acknowledge that being ThirtySomething is a very difficult age for dating and to recognize some of the factors that we are all sharing. I for one am 37 and never married so I know this subject well. We will carry on dating with renewed optimism but let us not forget that there are millions of people just like us, all looking for our perfect partner whilst coping with the issues stated.

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ONCE YOU'VE dated someone for a couple of months, you probably have a pretty good indication as to whether or not you’d like to take the relationship to the next level.

Deciding whether or not to move forward can be tricky, but it doesn’t need to be. What follows are several questions whose answers you must not only know about your partner but also find acceptable for the long-haul so you can decide whether or not to move things forward or end the relationship now.

Additionally, your partner isn’t the only one who needs to ‘pass’ these Relationship and compatibility markers. If you yourself have any issues with the following items, it may be wise to investigate your own readiness and ability to be in a serious relationship and discuss your feelings with your partner.

Is This Person Morally Aligned With You? Morals can include things like a person’s character, their level of integrity, and whether or not they are an honest person. While there are many other aspects to a person’s morality that are beyond the scope of a short article such as this one, but hopefully these initial ideas will give you enough meaning to move towards an answer.

For instance, someone who lies, cheats, exaggerates, steals or ignores the welfare of others is a person who most people would find themselves incompatible with. Yet how many times have you dated someone with those personality characteristics? Many of us have, but that doesn’t excuse doing it now.

Examine your partner’s moral code and how it both affects you, and works with you. If there are inconsistencies here, of if you have more questions along these lines, it’s time to have a serious discussion with each other.

Are Your Long-Term Wants and Needs Congruent or At Least Compatible? Frequently we’ll date people thinking that once they make a commitment, certain aspects of their needs and wants will change. “He’ll want to have kids after a couple of years of marriage,” or, “She’ll focus less on work and more on me once we move in together,” are both examples of this kind of skewed thinking.

It’s True That People Change! But why get serious with a person who is adamant they don’t want something you are dead set on having, or cannot accept a part of who you are that isn’t going to evolve anytime soon? If your long term needs aren’t compatible, it’s time to end this relationship and save everyone some long term heartache.


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YOU KNOW, online dating on the web is generally extremely safe, especially friendly and great fun and You Must committed to ensuring that it stays that way. It is safe dating because it is distance dating - simple! You do not come into contact with others initially and this may well provide you with a comfort factor that also allows you to pace yourself and be rightly choosey.

If possible though, you should try and follow a few basic online safe dating principles before deciding to pass over personal contact information to a relative stranger or arrange to meet them. It's all too easy to get a little carried away when viewing personal ads so take things slowly and take a rain check every now and again. The tips here are from Passion.com. They may appear obvious to you but we think that if you do try and follow them, it can only assist you in ensuring you have happy online dating experiences. And you never know, Mr. or Miss Right may be just round the corner. We really hope so.

A. Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.
B. Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.
C. Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.
D. Don't take everything at face value.
E. Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
F. Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.
G. If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.
H. Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.
I. Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible
K. Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever! You are the one in charge.


Also Consider The Following:

I. Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed.
II. A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
III. Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends with.
IV. Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box before hand if possible
V. Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date, get to know each other
VI. Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you.
VII. Always tell a good friend where you are going, and who you are meeting
VIII. If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm all is fine.


And Perhaps Consider These Points Too:

1. Always carry a cellular phone on a date if you have one.
2. Lunchtimes are good for dating, convenient, and they have a time limit.
3. Always make your own travel arrangements on a date initially!
4. Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal your address.
5. If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and confirm it.
6. Ensure you have as much information about your date as possible!
7. Keep your first date to a time limit so that you have an "Exit" point.
8. Don't feel you owe it to someone to meet them, you do not!

When We Think of Safe Dating by sets of rules like this it can all get pretty silly and scary but the fact is that we are introducing ourselves to strangers without the company of friends. It will always be a wise choice to have a friend close by even if they are sitting at a nearby table. But whatever you decide is best for you, keep your wits about you and enjoy your date!

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OKAY, So You date people hoping that one of these days you will come across the right person, the one you will make the greatest romantic connection with. But does it feel like you are going nowhere and believe that you just have no luck with meeting the right people? Feel like you are lost and doomed in this whole Dating business? Stop feeling sorry for yourself!

The reality of this situation is that luck has nothing to do with it. If you are like many people, you are probably dating blindfolded, without even realizing that you are doing so. If you feel unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns, then it is time for you to take a few steps back to see where things went wrong for you. Think you have been doing everything right? Think again! If you look back, you will be surprised to learn that you got so caught up in just the whole dating experience, that you forgot what to look out for and neglected your true needs and desires. What are you really looking for in a lover? What are your needs and desires? What qualities are important for a person to have and what other qualities are you willing to compromise with and accept?

Getting back in touch with what you are really looking for will help prevent you from staying in the Dating Scene forever. It is essential that you observe your actions and decisions, making sure that you do not continue to date certain people in the name of dating. If you find that you are not sharing the connection you crave with a person, then you must discontinue with Dating that person. Sure, you will feel bad for hurting that persons feelings, but what you must remember is that there is nothing too personal or emotional between the two of you anyway, so just throw that excuse out and just break it off, in a polite manner of course!

This is where so many get stuck, mistaking casual trial dates, with a personal and emotional relationship. This may sound too businesslike for your taste, but this is the way it goes in the real world of dating. If you spend your time trying to spare people hurt or disappointment, then you have been doing it all wrong. This does not mean that you have to be harsh and rude, but it does mean that you have to make finding the right person a first and high priority for, not worrying about what other people with think of you.

Which moves us to the next essential point in dating. While it is normal that you fix yourself up to make a great impression on your date, it is not the most important thing that you should focus on. In fact, so many dating singles out there worry so much about what their date will think, that they totally forgot the purpose of the date- to find out whether or not they will find the connection they are seeking. No matter how you fix yourself and what manners or personality you put on, you will never be in control of what your date will think or feel about the date, so set that unnecessary stress aside.

Instead, shift your focus about what you will think about him or her. Observe everything about them. Do YOU like their appearance? Does their personality appeal to YOU? Do YOU feel that you are making a good connection? As you can see, it is what you think that is important here, because you are the one looking for the right person, as well as certain qualities. Leave what they think, up to them!

The Fear of Being Single Forever can cloud your good judgment, causing you to continue seeing a person who you know you are not entirely satisfied with. You will do this because you will try to convince yourself that maybe you have been too picky and being with anybody, even if you are not crazy about him or her, is better than nobody. Stop lying to yourself! You do not have to get stuck with someone you are not entirely happy with, nor do you have to be single forever.

Being honest and up front from the beginning is what will get you where you want to be and whom you want to be with. Do not worry that you may scare off someone by telling him or her exactly what expectations you have and how serious of a relationship you are looking for. Look at this way, if they get scared that quickly, then it is a sign that they were not looking for the same thing as you are, so it saves you time and you can then move on to dating someone else.

As Long as You Get Real with Yourself, stop making excuses, know what your really want, stick to it and make it clear to the people that you Date, then you will be safe from too many mixed messages, misunderstandings and frustrations. When you treat your goal of meeting the right person seriously and important, then you will stay motivated to find him or her, and when you do- you will finally be able to begin the kind of Relationship that you have always longed for, needed and deserve.

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